Before I became a Mother, I don’t think I would have referred to Mums as “super human”. I think I took for granted what my Mum had done for me over the years and I didn’t realise the daily challenges that Mums face – the juggling, the guilt, the constant questioning, the emotions…the list is endless. Now I’m a Mum to two beautiful children, they are my biggest achievement and, even though my daughter can do no more than smile and gurgle, I’m incredibly proud of them both.
With my title of Motherhood, I think about my own Mum and the things she has done for me. In all honesty, I do think that she is a superhero…
Super Power 1 – The Great Counsellor
I genuinely believe that my Mum has advice for everything. Granted, I don’t always take that advice (more fool me) but she has gone through so much in her life that she has a lot of empathy and is extremely caring. I know that throughout my entire life, my mums advice/sayings will be whirling around in my head for decades. She will always be the voice on my shoulder. Whether it be “Think on Mrs Pickering” when I may be thinking of doing something I shouldn’t, or “Going now am I” when she leaves OR “take your coat off Auntie Vera” which is when you should think twice about what you’re doing. My mums voice is my conscience, my confidant, my best friend and my teacher.
Super Power 2 – The Protector
Throughout the 30 plus years since giving birth to me, she has done all she can to give me a happy, safe home and, at times, that meant putting my needs before her own. She has worked tirelessly to give me a good life and nice things. She has made huge decisions in her life, such as separating from her ex husband (my step dad), to make my life happier as well as her own. My mum is fiercely protective of her family.
Super Power 3 – Super Strength
She hasn’t had the easiest life and what she has experienced, particularly most recently, would be enough to make anyone give up. I know that at times she has wanted to but she has soldiered on, even when just getting out of bed was a massive task. Why? Because of me, because of the many other ‘children’ (I put it in apostrophes because none are children anymore) she has took under her wing and made her family, because of her grandchildren. As she says, being a mum, a grandparent, an auntie, a sister etc makes her who she is. I believe those roles keep her strong but I also believe that her resilience is unquestionable.
Super Power 4 – A Loyal Legend
My mum and I have stuck together throughout the highs and lows of life. Some of my happiest times where when we lived together in a little two bed terrace house, just her and I, with “not a bean” as she would say. It didn’t matter, she worked her backside off to ensure we could have a warm house and food in the cupboards. It’s a shame that I didn’t appreciate it at the time, I was a stroppy teenager. There are times when we argue and clash, we can really rub each other up the wrong way at times. I can be blunt at times. Mum can go on at times. It doesn’t matter though, because we are mother and daughter and will always be a team. My mum believes in honesty and truth. She has always said how much she dislikes liars and with that, she is incredibly loyal to the people who mean the most to her. She will stick up for you and have your back. She’s a good person to have on your side.
Super Power 5 – Kindness
Since my son was born, four years ago in June, my Mum has come round once a week to help with putting him to bed and allowing me to actually cook tea. As Little L set into a routine, our “Janma” nights became relaxed affairs where we could catch up and enjoy some Mother/Daughter time. I’ve always appreciated her giving up one night a week to help me out. Since Spud has arrived, those nights have become more crazy again, not just because of us trying to tackle two children between us but also because my Mum attempts to do whatever she can to make my life a little easier. She empties the washing machine and hangs it to dry, she washes up (not as much now I have my lovely new dishwasher), she wipes sides, tidies up, empties bins and, more recently, takes our bedding/towels home to wash! They come back with that special touch that you only get when your Mum does your washing. My Mum will do anything for anyone.
So on this Mother’s Day, after a pretty tough year since the last one, I’d like to wish my Mum a lovely Mother’s Day and say “thank you” for all you do and everything you are. Quite simply, she rocks. She is kind, caring, strong, resilient, funny and the best Mum and Janma anyone can hope for. In all honesty, the words “thank you” don’t really seem enough. Love you Mum. xxx
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