As the 1st day of August began, the first appointment of the month was a rather important one, the Anomaly scan for our second child. It’s an exciting appointment, getting to see our tiny human again and (if you want to) finding out the gender of that human. It’s also a nerve wracking appointment, as the sonographer checks that your baby is growing well and developing as he/she should.
Our appointment was at 8am! The first appointment of the day. Lucky as we (hopefully) wouldn’t be waiting around too long but we also have a three year old. In the three years that he has been in our lives, I don’t think we’ve ever all got out of the house before 9am so that was the first challenge! We succeeded and were waiting outside the hospital as my sister and niece ran towards us, just in time. They were coming to sit with Little L while we were doing the important bits, then they would all come in after.
There was no doubt that we would be finding out the sex of the baby. We found out with our son. Everyone says “Aww is it because you want to buy pink/blue or decorate the nursery in pink/blue”. Nope, I’m not a “pink or blue” kinda girl, it’s literally just because I don’t do surprises! I would be a nightmare for all concerned if I didn’t know the sex for 9 months!
When pregnant with my first child, everyone asked “Do you want a girl or a boy?” and now with my second and already having a son, I get asked “Do you want a girl this time?” Is there ever a correct answer to these questions? I don’t think so but I assume that there are few people that don’t have any kind of preference, even if it’s a 45/55% split. It’s controversial isn’t it? Preferring a boy over a girl or vice versa, surely we should all just want healthy babies and we do, but human nature makes us lean one way most of the time.
Since finding out I was pregnant in April this year, I decided that I would have another boy. I didn’t know why, I just saw myself with two boys. This doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t have liked a girl. My son, L, encourages the boyish side of me – football, cars etc but I have a Disney princess side that would be lovely to indulge in. My biggest fear was that I would feel sh*t about my reaction when I was told the sex of my baby so I went with the feeling of having another boy so that it would be a lovely surprise if it was a girl and I would be happy if it was a boy.
The scan itself went fairly well. Given the early morning appointment, I had only had a granola bar for my breakfast and baby was pretty sleepy making it difficult for the sonographer to see everything but she got there eventually…even if she did write “difficult scan” on my notes! Ha ha! Baby Roversi No2 is growing and developing well and has all its limbs. I also found out from the scan that I have an anterior placenta which explained why I hadn’t felt many movements up until that point. I rang my midwife after just to check it wouldn’t cause any major issues and that I would feel kicks eventually and she put my mind at rest.
I’d asked the lady not to tell us the gender until my son, sister and niece were also in the room so when they came in we were all very excited. She was great at pointing out all the bits of Little L’s new sibling and he seemed quite interested in it all. I suppose what you really want to know is – baby brother or baby sister? 🙂
Crazy eh? Two weeks on from the scan I’m still struggling to believe it! I think I did such a good job of convincing myself that it was a boy that now I can’t get that it’s a girl in my head. I cried when she told us, tears of happiness. I’m paying for another scan this afternoon, so my mum can come as she was unable to attend the hospital appointment, I think if they tell me that its a girl then, I will actually believe it. I have the most unconventional family that it seems very ironic that my husband and I have created the stereotypical family – ha ha! We’re both really happy. Our son will be a fantastic and loving big brother, not all the time I’m sure…I’m not deluded!
Here’s the little love:
Did you find out the sex of your babies? Did you get that same question and have a preference that you didn’t want to admit? I’d love to hear your thoughts.