I saw you approach the queue for the parking ticket machine, your husband(?) pushing you in your wheelchair. You didn’t think I saw because I was too busy checking my shopping list and dealing with my toddler who was swinging from his reins.
The thing is, the queue was bending because the door to Sainsbury’s was in the way and you didn’t see this…or if you did, you chose to ignore it. So obviously, as the queue moved forward and you tried to push in front of me I said something. You could see I was struggling with a buggy laden with shopping, a toddler on his reins and trying to find my ticket in my bag yet you were insistent you’d been there first and chose to argue with me about this. You hadn’t, but if you had, would two minutes have made any difference given what I was dealing with?
Despite all this, I can be empathetic and see that, if you genuinely did think you were their first, you might have thought I was pushing in…but I wasn’t. However you then exclaim “I’m not going to argue with ignorant people.” to which I bit my tongue because I’m dealing with a crying toddler who has tried to get in the buggy and fallen over his reins and his own feet (that child would fall over thin air!). Again, you can see I’m not having the easiest time but you repeat yourself, “I’m not going to argue with ignorant people.”, only louder so I assume you want a reaction, which you got, as I calmly, if not a little loudly, said “And I’m not going to argue when I’ve got an upset toddler.” (I’ve since thought of hundreds of other things I could have said, naturally!)
What bothers me the most is that word “ignorant”, my friends and family may call me many things but ignorant isn’t one of them.
The definition of ignorant: lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated.
Well, firstly, with a degree and a career in teaching I’m definitely not uneducated but some may argue about my levels of sophistication. What I would say is that, YOU were the one who showed ignorance. YOU showed a lack of awareness of the situation I was in and how hard it can be to go shopping with a toddler aged 23 months old. A toddler whom is getting near to teatime therefore hungry and fed up of shopping. YOU showed a lack of awareness that I only have two hands and yet pushing a buggy, holding a toddler and finding your parking ticket take three. YOU showed ignorance, not me. Are you a mother and, most probably, a grandmother? I’m sure if YOU’D have empathised with me, you would have been less ignorant and remembered yourself in similar situations, 40 or 50 years ago.
The end result was still the same, we both paid our parking, incidentally at the same time because two machines became free together. So, on reflection, would it have been so bad to have had a little patience with me and my son? Couldn’t you have shown some kindness and consideration towards me? Would that have been too much to ask? I guess I expect better of someone who is so
old experienced in life. (Sorry, couldn’t help the little dig at the end! Tee hee!)