I recent wrote a post about my sons new bedroom and I was excited for him to move into it and his big boy bed, for no other reason than we’d spent a fortune and I wanted the small room as a dressing room/office!
Well, since then, it’s not gone so well. Everytime I’ve tried to get him to sleep in his “big boy bed”, he’s freaked out. I’ve been busy marking coursework on an evening so I’d always given in, which brings me to present day.
Why have I chosen tonight? Well it’s the weekend which makes things slightly easier if I end up with a lack of sleep and my husband is around Sunday and Monday which will help. Secondly, my marking is all done so I have free time to be patient and sit with him. He’s such a good little sleeper, most of the time, and I don’t want to disrupt that but I do want to get him in his new room. He’s going to be in a proper bed in Australia and all my clothes are in his little bedroom now so I need it back!
PROJECT BBB: Night One
I’m sat on my sons new blue, extendable IKEA bed, scared to move because I think he might actually have fallen asleep, thanks to yours truely wedging herself into the bed with him. We had tears and cries of “cot, cot” but a few cuddles and telling him I’d stay with him seemed to settle him. I’ve laid next to him reading some blogs while he fell asleep and, 25 minutes on, I think he has…but now I’m scared to move! *Initiates Ninja Mum Moves*
Right…I’m going to try and leave. Wish me luck…!
I’m free! The monitor is on and Mini R is sleeping soundly in his big boy bed and lovely big boy bedroom! I’m so proud of him. I don’t know what the night has in store, probably me contorted into a hideous shape attempting to sleep on his bed with him, but it’s the first step. I’m sure when he gets used to it, all will be well.
Wait for the next instalment!
3:43am – Woke up to Mini R crying at his baby gate, saying “my cot”. It was heart breaking! Luckily I’d worn my proper PJ’s and took my dressing gown in with me (so i didn’t get cold), I laid down with him till he went back to sleep. To add to the situation, having the bladder of a fly meant I had to disturb him because I needed a wee so he kicked off again. It took an hour of me laying there before I could sneak back to my own bed…then he woke at 5:30am 😫 We tried to get him to go back to sleep in our bed but he was having none of it! The husband got up with him at 6:30ish however I didn’t really go back to sleep.
PROJECT BBB: Day Two
I’ve moved the cot into the spare bedroom and shut the door so he can’t see it. I’m wondering how nap time is going to pan out. Hopefully “out of sight, out of mind”.
12:30pm – Mini R has fallen asleep in the car so I’ve successfully transferred him to the big boy bed. Wayhey! Hope he doesn’t wake and freak out…
1:30pm – Okay, the nap wasn’t as long as some but he woke smiling and saying “hiya”. You’d think he’d have run a marathon the way I praised him! Even gave him some chocolate as a reward! He spent the rest of the afternoon “sleep in big boy bed!” very proudly to anyone who’d listen. I’m hoping it will make tonight slightly easier.
7:15pm – Bedtime stories are finishes (Mog the cat and Day Monkey Night Monkey) and he seemed pretty positive…until the end of the stories. We’ve had to have a cuddle and I’ve told him that cot has gone and he must be a good boy and sleep in his big boy bed. I’m currently sat on his bed, facing away from him. This is progress on yesterday when I had to lay down. Baby steps, ey? It took 25 minutes for him to fall asleep last night, wonder how long it’ll take tonight…
7:45pm – I’m downstairs with a sleeping son in his big boy bed – whoop! In time for Britain’s Got Talent too! I’m predicting at least one wake up again tonight…we will see.
Project BBB – Day Three
I guess in some ways the night was a success. He didn’t wake once…however he did wake for the day just after 5am. Being the ever optimist that I am, I got in bed with him hoping he’d be encouraged back to the land of nod. No such luck! So Daddy got up with him at 6am while I went back to bed, then we swapped…and Daddy slept till 1pm! Lucky bugger!
Nap time – Once again I dodge the whole saga of sitting next to him in favour of wearing him out at my best mates house then allowing him to fall asleep on the way home. Yet again, this is successful, and this time he sleeps 2 hours straight! Cue lots of praise and the reward of an Aldi Lemon and Raisin Scotch Pancake (he loves them!).
Bedtime – Conveniently, I have disappear for a game or two at Gala Bingo (a guilty pleasure of mine) thus leaving Daddy to experience Project BBB. He’s under strict instructions and reports back that there were no tears (an improvement), he could sit on the bed (consistent) and the time spent in there was the usual 25 minutes. In addition, the hubby didn’t fall asleep on the bed. An added bonus!
11:50pm – There’s a cry, I nudge the hubby and he’s up like a shot! This is a shock in itself as the hubby is not good at the night shifts usually. We agreed that, should he wake, hub will go as I might fall asleep then not hear my alarm for work. Luckily Mini R settles quickly although I mentally put bets on hubby ending up asleep in there all night. He proves me wrong and is back in bed ten minutes later. He earns a couple of husband points.
6:20am – I’m woken to the sound of my son sneezing then saying “Bless you Mini R (his name though)” and NO CRYING! Before he thinks about it I take the time to go to him and praise him before big cuddles in Mummy and Daddy’s bed. He even sits quietly watching “Justin’s House” (seriously does that guy have shares in CBeebies) and “Ra Ra the Lion” while I get ready for work and Daddy gets a few extra minutes kip. A positive morning all round!
PROJECT BBB – Day Four
Once again I’m conviently out at work and then Slimming World (4.5lb loss – whoop) therefore Daddy is in charge of Day Four on his own.
Daddy reports back RE: Nap time
Four days into PROJECT BBB and I feel like we are making small steps in the right direction. Let’s see how tonight goes….
PROJECT BBB – Day Five
Worst morning so far! Mini R woke us up crying at 3:45am so the hubby went into him, at 5:30am hubby returns saying he needs me to take over because Mini R has not gone back to sleep…I wasn’t sure if this was the case as I know that his patience with that sort of thing isn’t great and he falls asleep fairly easily. I suspect Daddy and son may have both fallen back asleep for an hour and Daddy didn’t realise as he had no access to the time. He will shake his head when he reads this ☺️
Either way, not the best of mornings! Nap time is redundant as Mini R spends Tuesday’s at nursery.
Bedtime – Tuesday is Janma night this week (usually Wednesday’s) so I’ve left her to do bedtime. Obviously he has been a complete Angel and she’s back downstairs within ten minutes of story time with a smug look on her face. Naturally I have interrogated her regarding her technique…it consisted of sitting up while Mini R laid down during story-time and sitting in the edge of the bed whilst gently patting his back to settle him. This is my plan for tomorrow night…
PROJECT BBB – Day Six
Result! Awake at 6am with no crying.
3:45am seems to becoming a key time in the night for me as I woke up despite Mini R being sound asleep. Typical. Bloody body clock. He was whimpering in his sleep, probably a nightmare where he’s running after his cot, around 5am which I woke to but he stayed asleep which is the main thing.
Currently, as I write this, we are at soft play. I’m hoping he’ll fall asleep in the car so I can transfer for nap-time again. Tonight, I will imploy the “Janma Method”.
Nap-time – The theory that Mini R would fall asleep in the car was thwarted by the little man himself who played peek-a-boo with himself all the way home. I’m doing my first nap-time where there hasn’t been a car to bed transfers. So far so good, he’s settled down and sounds asleep…I turn to look at him and check and he talks…in his sleep…I think. I’ll just wait another couple of minutes before Ninja Mum springs into action.
Bedtime – I failed to initiate ‘The Janma Method’…mainly because I left my phone downstairs and I got bored just sitting there. Seriously, what did Mum’s do before mobile phones?! Instead I sat while he settled then moved to ‘Second Position’ aka resting on the baby gate with my back to him. This was quite convenient as I was able to read a couple of chapters of The Unmumsy Mum book which I rarely get time to read and when I do, I fall asleep after a couple of pages! Incidentally, it’s hilarious and you really should read it if you haven’t. So there I am, reading away and he’s quite but not asleep, I can tell by a) the breathing and b) he’s banging the headboard with his hand. I potter around upstairs, loudly enough that he knows I’m still there but not loud enough to disturb him and think he’s missing out on something. That doesn’t work…he gets up:
“Mummy, lay down.” “No, Mummy isn’t laying down, this is your big boy bed.”
And I leave the room, I decide to risk coming downstairs….boom, I’m still downstairs now and he’s not made a sound. I’m taking this as a win and another step forward.
So there you go, six nights into Project BBB and, as much as I feel we’ve made steps forward, I don’t think we’re quite out of the woods yet! I hope this isn’t just boring rambles of a mother, i guess my hope is that this post might a) help someone else or b) encourage you lovely people to give me some tips to try! Please comment below, or find me on Facebook and Twitter and be kind enough to give me a ‘like’ or a ‘follow’, I would really appreciate it!