The great dummy debate!
Pre-baby we make all these promises to ourselves based on the kind of parent we’d like to be, but then reality hits doesn’t it? Things change and the stuff we say we’ll never do, we end up doing.
I bet giving your child a dummy is high on the list of things people say that won’t use then do. I never swore against dummies completely. Why? Well (confession time), I’m a thumb sucker. At 31 years old, I have managed to cut it down to just on a night but, as much as I try, I can’t cut it out altogether. I have set many goals to stop me doing it such as, when we got married, when I got pregnant and when the baby was born but here we are 20.5 months on from birth and I still haven’t managed to stop.
This one reason was why I didn’t rule out the dummy. I really didn’t want my son sucking his thumb. As much as it looks uber cute, I know how hard it is to stop and I didn’t want him to have that challenge in life…if I could help it. Dummies get called a ‘soothers’ for a reason, if it soothes Mini R and make him feel better when he’s tired or upset, deterring him from turning to his thumb, then a dummy it is!
We’ve been fairly lucky as Mini R is not dependant on it as such:
- He has it if he is upset or going to sleep.
- He happily (nine times out of ten) will leave his dummy and taggie blanket in his cot on a morning.
- He does not wander around with his dummy time for no reason, nor does he have a dummy clip. I like to make the decisions as to when he has it.
Recently, now he is learning and becoming more aware, he has started asking for his dummy when there is no reason why he’d need it. This is shortly followed by a tantrum when I refuse to give it to him. I’m not going to lie, the first few times this happened I wasn’t sure what to do, so i did was every FTM does, I made it up! He was getting in such a state that I gave him the dummy, but I sat him in the corner and told him that if he wanted the dummy he had to stay there. He’s really good at sitting on the Naughty Spot when asked at the moment. After a minute or so, I asked for his dummy, he gave me it and got on with playing – Mummy – 1 Mini R – 0! Let’s see how long that lasts!
The other downside of the dummy is night-times. Mini R doesn’t, and never has, woke up or got upset every time his dummy falls out and I reckon, most of the time, he finds it himself in his cot (glow in the dark dummies are brilliant for this!) He’s in a phase currently where, two or three times a night, he whimpers and sits up. I have to go in, lay him down, find his dummy and taggie if he’s lost it and leave. He settles easily but it’s still a pain and it does worry me about the future of nights without a dummy.
My plan is to continue with being strict regarding when he has it and hopefully give the dummies to Santa or the birthday fairy…definitely not before we got to Australia though. Anything to keep him quiet on the plane!
Pictures left to right: bedtime snuggles watching ITNG, rocking the strawberry shower cap before bath time, dummy dreams and sleep snuggles. (Note: all before bedtime when he’s settling down for sleeps.)
Where do you stand on the dummy? Have you used one? Did your child refuse them? What alternative did you have? If you’ve weaned a child off a dummy, please give me the secret to your success! Comment below or find me on Facebook and Twitter.