Today marks two years since I became the Roversi of ‘Educating Roversi’. Up until Mini Roversi came into the world, the best day of my life was our wedding day. I spent a year and a half planning it and it turned out exactly as I hoped: calm, intimate and fun with family and friends.
Myself and my husband(R) met four years previously, meeting in the March/April in a club in Leeds. If I’m being truthful I actually met his best friend first (and my friend met R) however after a few dates we realised it wasn’t going to work and at the beginning of July my Mr contacted me over Facebook and asked me out (with the permission of his friend!). My husband openly admits he didn’t expect it to be anything serious and I, after being single for year and a half following a heartbreaking split with my ex, didn’t think much of it as I was actually enjoying being independent and being single, which I’d never properly experienced before. We met at the Holmfield Arms in Wakefield for a drink and a bite to eat. He planted a kiss on me mid conversation so as to “get it out of the way” and I left with the biggest smile on my face. After putting my heart back to together, the date was the first time I’d felt hopeful that I could be happy with someone again. Unfortunately, my friend (who had first met R) was not so happy with us and promptly asked me to leave her house that I was sharing with her! He made me homeless! The rest, as they say, is history.
When we started seeing each other, my now Father in Law was opening up the family Italian restaurant in Leeds so right from day one we were not able to spend masses of time together however, with me having found my new independence and R already being a very independent man, it suited us perfectly…and still does! I spent many an afternoon in the restaurant and surrounding bars with my friends drinking cocktails and it was four months after we started seeing each other when, whilst my hubby was driving a drunk me home, that he asked me to move in with him. What did I do? Laughed. Not just a little but laughed hysterically in my drunken state! Obviously I was happy but shocked as we’d been together such a short space of time and my fella had a bit of a reputation as a ‘player’ when single so I was surprised he wanted to settle down.
One morning in October 2011, I was woken by R bring me a tray with a silver dome food coverer and my blackboard mug filled with tea. My reaction was one and a) why are you waking me up on a Saturday morning?! and two and b) You know I don’t eat straight away when I wake up! After much nagging he got me to lift the silver dome to find an engagement ring under it and he was down on one knee at the side of the bed. As he said “Will You Marry Me?” (which was also written on the blackboard but I’d not seen it!) my reaction was “Of course I will, you knob head!” Dead romantic eh? Ha ha! Our engagement party followed on the 11th November 2011 (11/11/11!) at the family restaurant, a DJ, an amazing buffet and plenty of Prosecco!
I drank so much prosecco at the engagement party that I was convinced I was having an heart attack the next day. My mum reassured me that it was just the bubbles. We spent the day cuddled up on the sofa in our little flat watching Crufts (?).
We saved like mad for our wedding and we were proud when we managed to pay for it all without getting in debt. The ceremony and reception were at 315 Bar and Restaurant in Lepton, Huddersfield. When I went to view it I knew it was the perfect place: small yet big enough for all my huge family and our many friends, modern, sleek and served excellent food. Emma, the wedding planner, was friendly and professional and humoured all my silly questions throughout the planning.
My mister was happy for me to run free with the wedding planning and I enjoyed it so much. I would LOVE to be a wedding planner! Originally the theme was going to be sage green but I couldn’t find the correct shade and I’m so OCD I needed everything to match so we went for a very pale “clover’ pink. I loved, and still love, the bridesmaid dresses by Amanda Wyatt. Both my dress (Ronald Joyce – Connie) and the BM’s were from Hoops-a-Daisy, in Wakefield. Many of my family have got their dresses from there and I would always recommend them. They were friendly, professional and very knowledgable on everything bridal.
Flowers were from Amaryllis Floral Design in Ossett. I chose white roses, in reference to my late father who was a Yorkshire man and we had white roses at his funeral, and my bouquet and the mens button holes also had sprigs of pink Bouvardia. The centre pieces were oversized tea cups with white roses and pink Gerbera’s.
The whole day was perfect from start to finish. I cried as I walked down the aisle with my Uncle – cried for my dad who would have been so proud and cried because I was so happy to be marrying the man I loved. My favourite part of the day was when the photographer (Magic Moments) took myself and my new husband off for some photos, just the two of us. He asked us to sit on a bench and chat and he snapped away.
It was lovely to get some time to talk because we’d not had much chance since we’d said our vows! I also loved the readings in the ceremony from my sister and step mum. It made everything so much more personal and gave them a role within the wedding which was important to me. Our first dance was A Thousand Years by Christina Perri and I had a ‘last dance’ with my mum to You’ll Be In My Heart by Phil Collins, which we both blubbed through! The night involved an amazing hog roast and lots of dancing. It was perfect and was followed with an amazing honeymoon in the Dominican Republic.
Myself and my husband don’t have a conventional relationship: we only spend one/two max days together a week due to the hours he works and we’re both so opinionated and stubborn that we bicker and flight like cat and dog. The latter has calmed since Mini R has come into our lives as we know it’s not healthy for him to hear so we are both trying hard to calm our stubbornness! Our relationship works because of how it is. We joke that in the six years we’ve been together we have probably actually only spent about half of that time in each others company. The significance of giving cotton for your second anniversary comes from it symbolizing the need for a marriage to remain strong and be able to adapt to changes (Thanks eHow.com!). Well, we’ve been through A LOT and I know, no matter what happens, or how much we bicker, that we are strong and will remain strong together no matter what changes come our way. He’s a fantastic father, a fantastic husband and, even though I don’t always show it, I love him lots.