I met with some of my besties and their boyfriends this afternoon for a belated birthday meal and one of the lads asked me how I was feeling now I was back at work. It got me reflecting on the last six weeks (wow, that long already!) that I have been living my new life as mum, wife and teacher.
If i’m 100% honest with you, I’ve actually quite liked it! I am luckily that, generally, I love my job so going to work everyday has never been a chore. Obviously every morning it is hard leaving my son but after a week or so I got used to it and I look forward to coming home or picking up from nursery and seeing his cute, usually food smeared face. I don’t think I could ever be a Stay At Home Mum (SATM)…the idea of it is nice but I think the reality of it would be different. After all, all my mummy friends who I spent the wonderful days of maternity leave with would be back at work and, as much as I love my boy, life would get pretty boring after a while if we had no one else to play with.
There are definite perks to being back at work:
1. I can go to the toilet whenever I want (out of lesson time) on my own. I don’t have to take anyone else with me, I don’t have anyone sat on my knee or clutching onto my neck, or screaming downstairs because I’ve left them (happily playing until the moment I was out of sight, obviously).
2. I eat my lunch peacefully. I don’t have to rush it, I don’t have to share it and, once again, I don’t have to have anyone sat on my knee while I eat it.
3. I only need one bag, possibly two if I’m taking work home. This is a contrast to non-work days where I have at least two minimum, sometimes three, plus a child who cannot walk yet. In addition, my husband bought me a “Back to Work” present in the form of a Michael Kors handbag. I’m a lucky girl.
4. This is the best one: I’m just me. I feel that, since i’ve been back at work, I have regained a bit of the old me back. I love being a mum but I don’t want to be only a mum. I like being a teacher too. At work I can do what I studied and trained to do and feel good about doing it. It gives my brain a break from the baby stuff and allows me to focus on something else, challenge my brain to think about something else.
5. At the end of the day, instead of coming home to an empty house, I get to pick my boy up and go home with him. We have tea, play, bath and bed and then I get my time…usually followed by an early night because it’s hard being a working mum! 🙂
Granted, there are issues that come with being a working mum. For example, this weekend I brought home some GCSE Essay Notes to mark. How many have a actually marked? Three…out of about twenty. This is because I would rather spend my time with my son and my husband (on a Sunday when he’s not working) rather than marking. Instead I will spend time after school, free periods and on an evening trying to get them done. More stressful but definitely the better option.
In conclusion, work is going well and I’m enjoying being back. I’m still massively looking forward to the summer holidays (Eight get ups and counting) and looking forward to only doing three days as of September which I think will be just the right balance for me between working mum and SATM.