Overall you listen, discard what doesn’t work for you and apply what does. From speaking to other mothers, of which I seem to know a lot of all of a sudden, one thing we all have in common is one simple frustration: we don’t get a choice in what we do.
Some may say that we signed up to this when we decided to have a baby and yes, I suppose we did to an extent however most (and i say most) people have a partner whom they expect will be there to help. My husband is a great dad however he has a choice whether he gets up in the night to my sons crying, he has a choice if he feeds him, he has a choice if he changes his nappy. I don’t have a choice, because if he doesn’t do it, it comes down to me.
I will openly say that this is one thing that frustrates me about being a mother, especially in the dead of night when I’m bleary eyed and tired. This thought only occurred to me one night when i woke my husband up for his shift of feeding (I breastfeed so it’s the only shift he does, which i express for) and he sat up, said “I’m tired, can you do this one?” and promptly laid down and went back to sleep. That’s when I realised that he had a option, a choice, us mummies don’t.